This is an affirmations that we have to listen all day from our parents, family, friends or any stranger that thinks that our problems are not really important problems or if we have one is so easy solving them because we are not dealing for example with a terminal disease, and let me clarify that with this im not saying that a terminal disease is not important. My point is that we cant minimize others problems only because we think that they are not enough important for attention or help, we don´t know what other person might be feeling inside or if they have the capacity to move forward without help.
So lets begin with a little game that I called ¿What deserves more attention?
It deserve more attention a mother that is suffering because her child is dying or a teenager that broke up with her boyfriend?
It deserve more attention a father that is struggling for paying the rent or a little girl that lost her favorite doll?
It deserve more attention a man who just got his dream car but it was delivered in a different color or an old man who is spending his last days alone?
I`m 100% sure that you quickly thought without hesitation for a second that is most important the mother that is suffering for her child, the father that is struggling for paying the rent and the old man who is alone. And let me tell you that you are not wrong but also you´re not right because there is not a correct answer for all of this questions and is very simple why we don´t have a correct answer and it´s because we simply cannot conceive life as a game in which there is only black and white, because life is so much complex tan this.
For example, you might think that the teenager that broke up with her boyfriend is not so important because it´s normal at that age to break up with your boyfriend and most likely she will soon find someone better and she will be fine.
But what would you think if I told you that after breaking up with her boyfriend and having no help from anyone, she decided to change completely so she started partying everyday and founded a “refuge” called cocaine that made her fall into a terrible depression that ended her life because a year later she decided to commit suicide. Do you still believe that it was not important? Do you still believe that she was overreacting the situation? Do you still believe that she didn’t need help?
And this is the moment in which we need realize that the situation of the mother and the young woman, although they seem totally different they have something very similar, as I read in the Auschwitz ballerina. And it is that both suffered from a situation that neither of them expected, a situation that did not come close to what they wanted. These people have something in common and is that they suffer from something they cannot control, something real that is killing the inside.
My point is that there is no problem superior to another, there is no suffering more important than other. Let’s stop comparing or minimizing the problems of others because in my opinion is not important or serious. We cannot think for example “Yes, what happened to him was terrible but is not that important” because each person’s sufferings is different, we are different so instead of comparing situations what we should and must do is trying to help the person who is suffering whatever the problem he o she faces. We need to have more empathy with others because believe me when I said that a few words of support and help can completely change a person’s life in one second.
BE KIND. IT´S FREE!!
